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Judy H. Wright - EzineArticles.com Expert Author
Judy is a parent educator, family relationship coach, and personal historian who has written more than 20 books, hundreds of articles and speaks internationally on family issues, including end of life.
Formerly a PBS-Ready to learn consultant, she still works with Head Start organizations and child care resource centers on an international basis.
Her message is one of kindness, respect and understanding of one another in all relationships; family, neighborhood, community, workplace, area and ... [More]
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- Problem Solver - New Job Description
[Business:Careers-Employment] If you want to make sure you or your child have an occupation that will last forever and will always be in demand, then learn to be a problem solver. A new job description for a new world would read; "Wanted: people who are bright, thoughtful, able to work without supervision and without a firm structure in place. Especially want those who make their own rules and imagine the amazing possibilities. Searching for people who are willing to be a problem solver of all kinds of situations and to think not only outside the box, but outside the universe."
- People Like to Do Business With People They Know, Like and Trust
[Business] In the world of business, if all things are equal, people will do business with a friend. If things are unequal, they will still do business with a friend. Those who are giving you their money want to know that you know what you are doing and they want to trust you. Are you well liked? Your likability is the critical factor in helping customers make a buying decision.
- Terminal Illness and Impending Death
[Self-Improvement:Grief-Loss] If you or a loved one is coping with a terminal illness and impending death my love and support go out to you. This is some of the hardest work in the world-so much to do, people to call, questions to get answered and so little energy to do it all. The decisions you must make to help someone complete their life in this sphere are are very difficult. As people struggle to make the right decisions about treatment, funeral arrangements, last wishes and final gifts, opportunities will arise for connections.
- Family Members - We're All in This Together!
[Home-and-Family] Think of a family as a healthy potted plant. A plant is made up of small individual stems and branches that, as separate entities, appear fragile and unsteady. But growing and developing together, they gain strength and protection from one another. The plant and the family is healthier and grows more when everyone cooperates and shares the resources as well as environment. Their roots are intertwined and form a secure foundation that withstands being knocked over and occasionally neglected
- Difficult Teenagers
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] If you have difficult teenagers in your home, you have our sympathy. It is not fun to live in a combat zone and worry that everyday will bring more battles and fights.
- Rude Children - Teach Good Manners
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Burp! Belch! Other obnoxious sounds and smells come from your 12 year old son. You want to die of embarrassment at what people will think of your rude children. You have certainly tried to teach good manners, but were they even listening? The problem with teaching tweens or teens manners is that parents frequently do it in a negative or critical way. It is especially embarrassing to the young person to be corrected or nagged at in public or in front of friends.
- Use Affirmations to Be More Confident and Self Assured
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] Affirmations are very basic tools of personal growth, confidence and self assurance. it is through the choice of positive thoughts, words and actions. The acronym TEARS helps us remember that Thoughts + Emotions = Actions = Results and that sends out signals of what we want in our lives.
- Suicide in the Family - Choosing to End a Life
[Self-Improvement:Grief-Loss] I have just received a call about the sudden death of an nephew who was estranged from the family (by his choice). He was smart, talented and only 37 years old. Of course, he had problems, everyone has problems.
- Divorce is Hard on Kids
[Relationships:Divorce] Divorce is hard on kids and adults and friends and neighbors and animals. There is nothing easy about divorce. It requires a mind shift about expectations, dreams and plans for the future.
- Indigo Children - Do You Have One?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] I had never heard of Indigo children five years ago. But I kept seeing these kids in my parenting classes that seem to shine. They were always active and full of themselves. Very hard to handle for parents and irritating to other adults. But then I started to see a pattern with some of the children and realized that not only did I know Indigo Children, but I had one.
- Stepdad Or Stepped on Dad
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] Stepdad, hmmm, does that mean that you are available to be stepped on or walked over? No, you are not a stepped on dad. You are an important part of your children's and step children's lives, even if they don't always respect you or your position as the dad in this house.
- Having a Green Home and Family
[News-and-Society:Environmental] Global warming and the environment has become a daily topic in the media, schools and town meetings all over the world. It is important that it also be discussed in the basic foundation of the world; the family. Our homes should be like apprentice shops of how to live and function in the world around us.
- Discipline Vs Punish - Guide Or Force Acceptable Behavior?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Many parents and teachers think that discipline and punish are one and the same. They feel that as the "Big Guys" with the power, they can force acceptable behavior with children. The word discipline comes from the word disciple; a leader, teacher or guide. It means modeling and guiding behavior and attitude with respect and kindness rather than using force.
- Be a Spiritual Parent and Stop Child Abuse and Neglect
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] A spiritual parent does not mean you can never get mad at your kids. It does not mean that you burn incense and candles unless you want to. It does not mean that you take the family to a church building each Sunday, unless that is your choice. It really does not mean that you allow your kids to walk all over you or be disrespectful and rude.
- Recycle, Reuse and Use it Up
[Home-and-Family] The advice given to our grandparents in the Depression was Recycle, Reuse and use it up. Our children need to understand that there is no such thing as "throwing something away." Garbage and refuse stays with the earth long after it leaves the local garbage cans and junk yards.
- Friendship Connections For Young Children
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] For most young children, day care, play groups or preschool is the primary place to develop a sense of belonging to a group and having special people there to enjoy. This is where young children practice the social skills necessary to make and keep friends. Read this article for specific ideas your children.
- Friendship and Social Skills on the Playground
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Parents and teachers play a vital role in teaching the skills of friendships and inter-personal relationships. Even toddlers can learn to initiate and sustain friendship and build social skills on the playground and in the group setting.
- Fathers - What to Talk to Your Kids About
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] Fathers frequently tell me they have difficulty connecting with their children, especially if there has been a divorce, incarceration or separation of some kind. Both father and child hunger for a close relationship but get bogged down in arguing, criticism or surface words.
- Emotional Wounding - Reframe Past Hurts
[Health-and-Fitness:Emotional-Freedom-Technique] We have all had emotional wounding in our lives. Usually the negative beliefs about our capabilities, appearance or skills were given to us by someone in our early life experience. The hurt or criticism was typically handed out by a caregiver, parent or teacher. They may even have had the best of intentions and really loved us, but did not know how to express that love in a positive manner.
- Dads Are Important to Children & Society
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] What we fail to teach in childhood, can never truly be made up for in adulthood. As important as mothers are in nurturing and guiding children, it is vital that we understand and encourage dads to take part in preparing the child for society.
- Dance and Sing Away Sadness, Anxiety and Worry
[Health-and-Fitness:Alternative] When we are going through hard times, depression, anxiety, worries or feel that our lives are out of control, we don't want to sing, we want to go bed and crawl under the covers. But studies and personal experience has shown that just the mere act of making a decision and moving forward in some small way causes serotonin in your brain to release. This means that you start to feel and act happier.
- Body Language - Signals For Success
[Relationships:Communication] Most basic non verbal communication gestures are universal. When people are happy, they smile, when sad or angry most will signal unhappiness with a frown or a scowl.
- Caregiver Or Nursing Staff Can Write Life Reviews
[Home-and-Family:Elder-Care] People what are nearing end of life have a deep desire to know their live has had meaning and they have not lived in vain. The greatest gift one can bestow on humanity is to teach and share wisdom. This is a way to insure that while your body may leave this earth, your words will linger. Caregivers, family, medical personnel and social support staff have an opportunity to help the ill person to do a short life review.
- Organize Your Child's Summer Activities and Have More Family Fun - 5 Tips For Parents
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Summer is here and with it an overwhelming number of activities, play dates, summer camps and fun things to do. Also here are the plaintive cries of kids who say; "I'm bored, there is nothing to do." The best ideas, as suggested by parents in my classes, are to organize the days and weeks of summer so that the activities are spread out and manageable by parents and children. Here are 5 tips that will help make Summer smooth sailing and fun for everyone.
- Develop Life Skills and Self Confidence in Children -3 Top Tips
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Life Skills means abilities (aptitude) and confidence (attitudes) needed to have a successful life. When children reach a certain age (usually about 7-8 years old) there is more emphasis on letting go rather than holding on so tight. Now is the time to let them have a little more freedom to solve their own problems. This is the time when they usually know basic safety rules and enjoy playing independently with their friends without adults hovering nearby.
- Anxiety and Fear Can Be Overcome With Community Assistance
[Health-and-Fitness:Anxiety] Today we had a brunch with a group of friends. Most were middle aged and very talented, but stressed with worries about relationships, money and health- the major concerns of most people. They were also anxious because of the economy and fearful of losing their jobs and retirement savings.
- Parents Need to Talk With Children About Sexual Abuse
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Parents need to talk with their children about sexual abuse. This subject can be uncomfortable for adults to bring up, but it can discussed the same way you talk about other dangers in the world, like a fire or earthquake. Children who are prepared and have accurate information about setting boundaries when others attempt to touch them inappropriately are more likely to ask for help.
- Day Care and Pre-school Jitters - Make Transition Time
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Is your child nervous about change and new beginnings? Be prepared for some resistance to a new schedule or transition to a different environment. Let's see if we can find some tips to make transition easier on children, parents, teachers and day care providers.
- Model Confidence With Body Language
[Self-Improvement:Self-Esteem] Do you feel confident and sure of yourself in business and personal interactions with others? Do you admire the way some people just seem to "own the room" They have a look of success about them. People who have confidence and courage stand out from the crowd. You can too. Read this article for great ideas on how to model confidence with your body language.
- Military Family - Cardboard Boxes and Blank Walls
[News-and-Society:Military] The Challenge of Every Military Wife - What do you mean we have to be across the country next week? How can the kids be pulled out of sports, school and the arms of their best friends again? If you have ever wondered how to grow personally from the upheaval of moving often, you will enjoy this article.
- Problem Kids - Parent Training
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Much like the age old question of which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Many of the parents I see in my work as a family relationship author and trainer are not confident of their parenting skills and the children can sense their insecurity.
- Teasing, Taunting and Texting - Middle School Teens and Tweens
[Home-and-Family] Teasing, taunting and texting! That pretty much describes young teens and tweens. Middle school and Junior High are tough years for most adolescents. Their peers are worse than vultures on the playground. Parents don't understand and teachers have no mercy.
- Healthy Boundaries Are Necessary - 20 Reasons to Set Them in Friendships and Personal Relationships
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] What part do boundaries set in friendships and personal relationships? Why are they necessary? How do you know if your boundaries have been crossed or your rights as an individual have been ignored? How can you handle a work situation if your boundary of acceptable behavior has been stepped over? Are you aggressive, passive or assertive in stating your needs and feelings? Do you expect others to handle you carefully when you have a bad mood? Do you sometimes blame others for "making you mad?"
- Self Image and Confidence - Success in Relationships
[Self-Improvement:Self-Esteem] Our success in relationships, business, sports and spiritual endeavors is largely determined by our self image and confidence. Those who exhibit confidence in themselves and their choices seem to attract good things, people and experiences to their lives.
- Sexual Abuse Affects Self Confidence and Self Esteem
[Relationships:Domestic-Violence] Children who have been sexually abused may suffer from deep wounds to the their self esteem and confidence. They may spend years feeling a loss of worth caused by those who have manipulated their minds and bodies in inappropriate ways.
- Self Confidence - How Did You Develop Your Belief System?
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] Today, I went to a local business networking session. There were approximately 20 men and women from our community attending the meeting. Most were business professionals with ages ranging from early twenties to late seventies. I asked for help with a project on finding what pivotal event or person shifted the confidence level of the attendees...
- Storytelling Builds Imagination in Toddlers and Young Children
[Home-and-Family:Babies-Toddler] Early Childhood Educators and most grandparents have long known the importance of talking, singing and reading to your toddler and young children. Even before babies are born, they can hear the sound of your voice and respond positively to stories and songs. Sharing stories and fairy tales are one of the most enjoyable parts of parenting.
- Build Your Community - Give Assistance Where You Can
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] Today we are going to the Habitat for Humanity office. No, not to sign up to help build a home for someone in our community. Unfortunately, I have an auto-immune condition that makes my muscles weak and my husband has a bad back. (Not excuses, just explanations.) But we do want to give assistance to those who can help hammer, saw, cut and carry in order to build a house. We are going to give a donation and pick up an item we won on a silent auction fundraiser. Our community is important to us and so we want to give back.
- Dads Needed - Dedicated Adults Directing and Supporting Children and Youth
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] There is a shortage of DADS around. Most males can father a child, but it takes someone special to be a dad. DADS are dedicated adults directing and supporting children and youth. Those who fill this role are both male and female, but are always loving, caring and supportive individuals who want the best for the young people they work with.
- Anger is a Powerful Emotion That Can Harm Relationships
[Self-Improvement:Anger-Management] Anger not only causes damage to your body but can cause a great deal of havoc in relationships, both personal and professional. Angry people find themselves increasingly isolated. Other people do not want to be around someone who is likely to become hostile or filled with rage. Bosses and co-workers do not want to put up with "bad moods" or always be on the lookout for the first signs of a flareup or meltdown.
- End-of-Life Or Comfort Care is Called Pallative
[Home-and-Family:Elder-Care] End-of-life care is commonly referred to as palliative care. This care is usually done by a team of health care professionals, as well as the patient's family. It focuses on management of physical symptoms and emotional support to both the family and the patient. This type of care is most often directed by a Hospice team who are specially trained to assist the family and make the patient as comfortable as possible until death occurs.
- Assessment of Needs - Developing a Care Plan When Death is Near
[Home-and-Family:Death-Dying] When people are suddenly disabled, hospitalized, entering a care facility or Hospice unit if death is near, they are often subjected to something called an assessment or care plan. The care providers make a list of what the patient can and cannot do, have or eat.
- Talk to Children About Death and Dying
[Home-and-Family:Death-Dying] Children who have been exposed to the concept of death as part of the life cycle are not as afraid as those whose families never spoke of it. Death and dying are not subjects that come on a daily basis, but when an opportunity arises, such a Memorial Day picnic, it is perfectly natural to include it in the conversation. We all Suffer Loss of Some Kind Children can see that adults enjoy telling funny stories and remembering ancestors who have died and may even shed a tear or two. It is okay to mourn the loss of loved ones and to feel save sharing those feelings with others. So many questions about life and death don't have easy answers. The adults who are trying to give information have to do that from a point of view, their own experiences or their beliefs. You may want to reassure the child that even though no one can tell you exactly how it feels to die, since they have not yet died, they can share opinions and their own impressions.
- Death and Dying - What I Want Vs What I Need
[Home-and-Family:Death-Dying] If you or a loved one has been given a terminal diagnoses, it is necessarily a life sentence? What do you want in the last few months or years of your life? Do you have the right to ask for and yes, demand that you be given what you want as you make this transition from this plane of existence into the next one?
- Your Top 4 Secret Fears and Anxieties About Dating
[Relationships:Dating] What if she doesn't like me? What if she thinks I am dumb? What if he expects me to pick up the tab for dinner? What if I say the wrong thing and she laughs at me? What if she says no? What if she says yes? Not only is dating filled with anxiety anyway, it is especially hard if you are just going back to the dating scene after a divorce or breakup in a relationship. it is hard enough to be confident when you feel secure and strong, but when you are vulnerable it is especially difficult.
- Overcome Self Doubt-Lack of Confidence, Courage and Can't Do it Attitude
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] Perky Personality, positive attitude, perpetually happy? Is that how others see me? Well, it is not true, by a long shot. When a friend commented that I seemed more pensive and less perky than usual, she was actually a little annoyed that I could be down in the dumps, concerned or even doubting my self.
- Comfort Care Means Relief From Pain, Not a Cure For Those Who Are Terminally Ill
[Self-Improvement:Grief-Loss] Comfort care means less suffering, not cure. Our scientific and medical cultures are trained and geared toward cure, treatment, and results. Medical personnel want to fix people and find answers. Some will feel that somehow they have failed their calling if they do not keep searching and attempting to find a "cure." It is often difficult to move from this modality into comfort care only. Such things as lab work, blood sugar reading, monitors, antibiotics, artificial nutrition, food and water, prescription drugs, continued chemotherapy, insulin and other result and data gathering procedures may need to be questioned as the dying process progresses. We must ask what will truly comfort the dying person, both physically and emotionally and let this guide our actions.
- Unexpected and Traumatic Death - What Do You Do?
[Home-and-Family:Death-Dying] Even though 10% or more of reported deaths are unexpected and traumatic, you are still blindsided when it happens to those you love and care about. It is not something that one ever plans on and so are not only grieving emotionally, but have no idea on what to do in order to handle the practical aspects of death. it is not helpful that medical and police personnel, trained to solve problems and find answers may seem very matter of fact or even uncaring. They may announce to you that you must make "arrangements" or even question you or other members of the family. The reality is that they are usually caring individuals or they would not have been drawn to that line of work. However,in order to protect their own emotional energy, they make not take the time for personal or emotional responses to your pain. Find an Advocate The first thing to do is to ask for an advocate. You need someone to help you make decisions and try to understand what is happening and what you need to do.
- Electronic Free Activities For Families That Build Social Skills
[Home-and-Family:Entertaining] Do you think that fun and games must be expensive or come only after the chores and homework is done? Do you think that being together has to include food or commercial events? Are you waiting for the children to suggest a romp in the park or a race to the mailbox? Are you hoping they will ask you to come out and play? Well, trust me, it won't happen! it is much too easy for your kids to turn on the TV, Game boy or Wii. These electronic entertainment centers are almost addictive and much too easy to turn on and hours later, they are still communicating electronically, rather than face to face interaction. You are the Family Activities Director If you really want the kids to turn off the electronics and turn on their imaginations, you must consistently plan family fun times. You can include the children in planning family outings and game nights. This will give them an opportunity to learn how to present ideas and negotiate in a safe environment. This planning process can teach your child how to compromise and take turns, as well as the principle of give and take.
- 10 Ways For a Dad to Say I Love You to His Children When He is Away From Them
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] Children need fathers. No matter how old the child is or how bad the relationship has been in the past. If you, as a father, have relinquished the reins of guidance because of absence you need to step back into the picture. Many men are uncomfortable mentoring, guiding, teaching and yes, loving their own children. they assume that the step-dad, teacher or coach will step in to teach their sons the ways of male-dom. Being a Dad is a sacred calling and the minute your sperm connected with the egg, you were committed to being responsible. You also have a calling to support and encourage not only your children, but those in the community, to grow and develop their talents and abilities. Absent-Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually? In my work as a parent educator, I see many men who are confused about how to show love. Many are absent in the lives of their children and want to connect but don't know how. Some feel that because they left the child or family and moved on, then so did they. No, the child has a hole in their heart for the love of a Dad and needs to know you care.
- When the Search For Cure Ceases - Pallative Care
[Health-and-Fitness:Medicine] Families often struggle with the need to be sure everything has been done that can be done their terminally ill loved one. It can be very difficult for the patient and family members as they transition from making decisions toward cure to making decisions that will help to allow for a comfortable and peaceful death. When a terminally ill person and/or their loved ones make the decision to discontinue curative treatments and move instead into comfort care in preparation for approaching death, there are several matters which must be considered. What is Palliative Care Palliative is any form of medical care or treatment that concentrates on reducing the severity of symptoms rather than curing the disease. The goal of palliative care is to relieve suffering and improve quality of life for those who are experiencing serious, complex and terminal illness. This can include alternative or energy work such as massage or aromatherapy which may alleviate the harsh side effects of the curative treatments. One example is the use of these methods to relieve the nausea associated with chemotherapy.
- Why Fathers Matter to Kids
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] The family is the foundation of life. It is the basic organization and where family members learn what is expected of them in life and their part in the scheme of things. It is in the family setting that children understand their external environment. Young children and teenagers figure out who and what they are by what they are shown by example as well as being told verbally and non verbally by important adults.
- Fathers and Sons - Why Boys Need Role Models
[Home-and-Family:Fatherhood] C.L Sulzberger, former columnist for the New York Times, makes a strong case for the influence of fathers in his famous book "Fathers and Children- How Famous Leaders Were Influenced by Their Fathers." It is important to note that not all influence was for the better of the child. Some of the fathers were as celebrated as their children and some of the parents were overshadowed by the fame of the offspring. Can and Should a Dad Be Part of Son's Life The answer is yes. As a parent educator I have visited and taught hundreds of families and see many single Moms struggling to make sense of what their sons need and want from life. As important as mothers, grandmothers, aunties and female teachers are, boys need other male role models to guide and teach them how to be a kind, thoughtful and respectful men.
- Communication Skills to Help You Stop Fighting - Conflict Resolution in Relationships
[Relationships:Conflict] When the relationship proceeds to the next level, which is marriage or living together, new stresses are brought to bear and conflicts over possessions, space and personalities start to come out. The bloom is off the rose, so to speak. The day to day demands of life form a more accurate picture of the parties.
- Grandma's Apron Pockets Held Treasures For Children
[Home-and-Family] I think the reason my Grandma, an early Idaho pioneer homesteader, wore the long cotton apron with big pockets and ties around the neck and waist was to protect one of the two dresses she owned. She probably thought she would just put it on to do chores and then her dress and demeanor would be fresh for visitors.
- No Screaming - No Arguing - No Frustration
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Are you sick of arguing and screaming and being frustrated because your child does not listen to you? Would you like to learn some tips that might help you gain a more cooperative family and more peaceful environment to live in? Then perhaps you would like to know why children misbehave in the first place and how you should react in order to gain some sense of order and peace in your family. Why Children Misbehave As a parent educator, I have seen many families in chaos, simply because they are not holding family meetings and involving the children in problem-solving. I have also seen families move from anger to admiration in a matter of days or hours.
- Exploring Grief - We Have All Lost Something
[Self-Improvement:Grief-Loss] Internal work on our believe systems, thought patterns and behaviors is the hardest work any of us will ever do. It takes a great deal of courage and desire to change to undergo the strenuous work of digging through the layers of hidden feelings, experiences and hurts.
- Stories Help Us Remember Our Loved Ones
[Self-Improvement:Grief-Loss] People who have lost a loved one, either a human or animal, search for ways to remember and at least keep a memory alive. Sharing stories helps us remember those good days and the joy that loved one brought to us. We may no longer to enjoy their fun and love in this existence, but the memory can remind us of the emotions and experiences we had together. We want to remember the deceased and maintain some part of their live lessons in our daily journey. This need to remember becomes especially strong on birthdays, anniversaries or holidays. It may be the season that triggers our memory. Or a smell. Or a treasured old toy in the attic.
- Grief, Sympathy and Support - How to Offer Comfort When Someone is Hurting
[Home-and-Family:Death-Dying] What do you say to someone who has just lost a child to death? What do you say to someone whose parent has died from a lingering illness? What do you say when a family member lost their life in a war you don't believe in? What do you say when the death came about from murder? Or suicide? Or drug overdose? It is often easier to say nothing than risk saying the wrong thing. However, the death of a loved one is the worst thing that can happen to someone and so to ignore the survivor, or fail to mention the loss, is to add to the hurt. Friends and relatives need to talk about the loss and to know that they are safe in discussing it with you. They need to be reassured that you acknowledge their feelings, concerns and actions.
- Recycle, Reuse and Reduce - A Quiz For Families Who Want to Recycle Cans
[News-and-Society:Environmental] Does you family recycle aluminum cans? Do they do it to get a little extra cash or because it is the responsible thing to do? How much do they, and you, know about what happens to the can after the soda is gone? Here is a quick true and false quiz on recycling. It will only take 2 or 3 minutes to find out what you know and what you need to know about the importance of families recycling.
- Giving Feedback That Builds Self Image - Use Respect Not Ridicule
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Your intention is to motivate a child or employee to do better. You are clear in your mind what you want to achieve and the behavior that you want changed. You expect to be listened to and obeyed! You are right and they are wrong. Someday, they will be grateful that you cared enough to show them what they were doing incorrectly. Sound familiar? When a situation calls for feedback, we tend to justify our position and come at the situation from a power standpoint. This tends to put the other person in a defensive status and what may have started out as a visit turns into a confrontation, with words and emotions expressed that are not helpful. The ridicule will actually not accomplish what you had hoped and will harm the relationship.
- Spoiled, Spacey, Smart-Mouthed Kids - Is it Too Late to Discipline?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Are you acquainted with spoiled, airhead, belligerent, obnoxious and rude children? Even worse, are you related to them? Are you so stressed out with trying to gain cooperation, that there is little time for fun or expressions of love? Is your interaction more of a battleground than peaceful co-existence? If so, here are 7 tips to help you regain an attitude of mutual respect.
- Righting a Wrong Choice - Everybody and Everything Deserves a Second Chance
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] What do you do when you realize that you have made a mistake? Is there a way to make it right with the person who has been hurt? Is an apology enough? How can we be sure that we won't make the same mistake again? Here are some great tips to help you make a wrong choice into a right decision. Everyone and everything deserves a second chance.
- What is an Auntie? Is it Different Than Aunt?
[Home-and-Family] Do you have an Auntie? I hope so because everybody deserves to have someone in their lives who will encourage, support and think they are wonderful. Many people have asked me about my title of Auntie Artichoke. Whose aunt am I? Do I have many nieces and nephews and they call me Auntie Artichoke? Actually, I do have relatives, but the title of Auntie has nothing to do with blood lines but rather spiritual connections.
- Attaboy! Encouraging Phrases That Build Confidence and Positive Action
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Parents, spouses and bosses tend to feel that criticism and pointing out what is wrong will make others want to do what is right. However, people cannot improve unless they feel good enough about themselves to believe they are capable of improvement. Learn some encouraging words and phrases to build that confidence.
- Social Anxiety - Afraid to Meet New People and Make Friends?
[Health-and-Fitness:Anxiety] Do you panic when you know you have to go to a party? Does giving a speech or presentation leave you breathless and worried? Do you assume people will not like you or even worse, completely ignore your presence? If you feel you are shy and introverted, do you want some tips on becoming more confident?
- Staying Calm When Stressed Out - What is Underlying Emotion?
[Self-Improvement:Stress-Management] As a parent educator and family relationship coach, I work with families just like yours and mine all over the world. When I asked participants in my parenting classes what they do when they are angry or stressed, they say that they yell, swear, throw a shoe or other object or threaten their kids with a punishment.
- What Do Children Need From Parents? Help Them Understand and Express Their Needs
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What do children really need besides food, shelter and protection? Have you ever wondered what your responsibility is to ensure that your child will grow up to be a contributing member of society? As a mom, foster mom and grandmother as well as a family educator, I have learned a few things about what children really need. Surprise, it is not the latest toy or name brand clothing. Following are a few notes that your child would tell you if he or she could. Relax, none of them cost anything but some time and attention.
- Respect Versus Ridicule - Giving Feedback That Builds Up Rather Than Tears Down People
[Relationships:Communication] Your intention is to motivate a child or employee to do better. You are clear in your mind what you want to achieve and the behavior that you want changed. You expect to be listened to and obeyed! You are right and they are wrong. Someday, they will be grateful that you cared enough to show them what they were doing incorrectly. Sound familiar?
- What Makes Strong and Nurturing Families?
[Home-and-Family] Human beings have the longest dependency on others than any other living creature. We spend our lives in relationships, either toxic or nurturing. If the family of origin was not supportive and loving, we either repeat that pattern or look for other mentors and teachers.
- Character Traits to Teach and Have - What Makes a Person Develop Values and Standards?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Character is the set of qualities that make somebody distinctive. It is the outward manifestation of what you believe inside your mind and spirit. It is your nature, personality and moral fiber. Your character is the attitude and set of mind which indicates to others who you are and what you stand for. As you read through this small list of admirable character traits, check the ones that you believe are a part of your inner guidance system.
- To-Do List For Parents, Written by Kids Just Like Yours and Mine
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Do you wish you knew what your child was thinking about you as a parent? Are you struggling with your confidence as a parent? Do you sometimes feel like you are not doing enough to help your child become a responsible member of society?
- Encouraging Words to Promote Positive Action in Children
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Encouragement is the process of focusing on your children's assets and strengths in order to build their self-confidence and feelings of worth. I like to think of the word "encourage" as "en"courage, or giving the gift of courage. Inherent in that gift is the idea that it is okay to take risks and perhaps even to fail - the important thing is to go ahead and try it anyway.
- Raising Kids on a Budget - Involve the Whole Family to Cut Expenses
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] If your bills and expenses equals more than your income, you are headed for trouble and must take steps immediately to get back on track. There must be enough coming in your household to cover what is going out in expenses.
- Incentives Can Encourage Feelings of Accomplishment
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Do you know the difference between a bribe and an incentive? Are your children and employees always concerned with WIIFE (what's in it for me)? Do you think the sense of entitlement some children have is growing? How do you teach the inner reward when they want an outer or tangible gift? In this article, we will discuss the place of incentives in motivation.
- Share Family Stories Around the Holiday Table
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] "When a grandparent dies, it is like a library has burned down." This old African saying has taught me the value of listening and sharing family stories. As we approach the holidays, it is even more important to turn off the Television and turn on to each other and the family stories we share. Do you know what was your dad's favorite Christmas or Hanukkah gift as a young child? Do you know why your grandmother makes her special cookies?
- Presents Or Presence? Which Gift is the Most Priceless?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Old Mother Hubbard went to the cupboard to get her poor dog a bone, when she got there, the cupboard was bare. And so her poor dog got none. Do you remember the old nursery rhymes from Mother Goose? Does your cupboard feel bare? How about your bank account? What about your wallet? Are you dreading gift gifting time because you used to give such wonderful gifts and you are afraid others will expect it of you this year?
- Teach Your Children to Assume Responsibility For Their Actions
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] An important part of being a responsible adult is assuming responsibility for your actions, no matter what they may be. The same is true for children. However, often children blame others, or avoid responsibility for their own actions. Why could this be? It's because they have probably received negative reactions when they admitted responsibility for a mistake.
- Are We Spoiling Our Kids With Too Much Stuff?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Are you a parent, grandparent, teacher, coach or employer who is dismayed at the sense of entitlement many of our young children have? And that is not all they have. They have clothes enough to outfit a small orphanage, toys enough for a play land and an excuse for every chore they are asked to do.
- Resilient People Bounce Back
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] How we adapt to life or our attitude is usually shaped in childhood and modeled after someone who has influenced us in our formative years as well as our natural bent or personality. If we saw some members of the family give up easily or rail against change, we either decided to follow suit or be the opposite. To please parents and other important adults, most children try hard to be good and receive approval, not bad with punishment or discipline.
- Help Your Child Succeed in School - 5 Ideas to Build Parent-School Partnerships
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Are you concerned about your child's experiences in school? Here are some ideas to go the extra mile in building partnerships with the teacher, school and environment to produce major results in academic success. Parents make the difference in a child's education and love of learning. We can help with homework and read together daily. We can ask questions to encourage critical thinking and help them to problem solve in order to see options and alternatives. You can become involved as a partner in the education and learning environment of not only your child, but all others who do not have an advocate.
- Why Our Kids Don't Listen - 5 Reasons Why They Tune Us Out
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] "Did you hear what I said?" "Are you listening to me?" "Why do I have to repeat myself 100 times?" "Do you understand what I am telling you?" "What did I just tell you to do?" "Are you deaf?" If you are tired of trying to communicate with a child who seems to be hard of hearing when we speak, perhaps there are some reasons. We talk too much We talk too loud Every conversation is a criticism We don't listen when they speak They have trained us to nag Let's examine these Listening Lessons and see what we can improve.
- Kids, Chores & More Easy to Use Ways to Get Your Family to Help at Home
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] It is sometimes easier to do the chores ourselves than get the kids to pitch in. Is it worth it to expect household help from all members of the family? Yes, it provides benefits for everyone. The goal for parents should be to do less for their children so they have more time to do things with them. By working together as a family, we learn life skills and to assume personal responsibility.
- Five Year Olds - Ages and Stages
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] The five-year-old is surer of himself and is generally dependable. He has learned to do what is expected of him. You can usually reason with him, and he will understand why you want something done a certain way. A five-year-old may still have some difficulty using small muscles, but can usually print his name and a few other words. Read on to learn about mental, emotional, social, physical development and realistic task expectations.
- Remodeling - Not Always Good For Relationships
[Relationships:Enhancement] We decided years ago that if we were going to do projects together, we needed to refrain from judging the perceived weaknesses and respect the strengths of each other. So we allow only one raised eyebrow or hands in the air in the presence of the other person per hour. We have stopped trying to convert the other one to our way of thinking and our method of painting. We each just do our own thing and connect on the really important stuff like using blue cheese salad dressing and commitment to each other.
- Long Term Grief - Not Get Over But Get Different
[Self-Improvement:Grief-Loss] Have you ever heard someone say that in retrospect a tragedy was the best thing that ever happened to them? You just shake your head and wonder what they are talking about. How can the bad be good? Get Over Your Grief For someone who has recently lost a loved one, the future is confusing, frightening and very vague. They are not sure who they are now that they are no longer the caregiver, wife, daughter or whoever they had labeled themselves through the years.
- Four Year Olds - Ages and Stages
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Characteristics of 4 year old children - If three is the age of doing, four is the age of finding out. The two words most frequently used by a four-year-old are Why and how. He is also a doer who lives in the here and now. So when you say, "Let's hurry and clean the house and we can go to the circus tomorrow," you are really pushing his buttons. Yesterday means nothing. Tomorrow is a vague promise. However, he can get very excited about coming events, but, because he cannot grasp the meaning of time, he may ask, "Is it tomorrow yet?" Read this article to learn the social, emotional, mental, physical stages of development as well as realistic expectations of responsibility.
- Three Year Old - Ages and Stages
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] The third year is a fascinating one in the growth of a child and is personally my very favorite. I have never met a three-year-old I didn't just adore. The three-year-old can do things. He can run, jump, ride a trike and go up and down stairs proficiently. He loves to run errands, and his best reward is a smile from his parents. He pays attention to adults and watches their facial expression for approval or disapproval. He is motivated by stories, games and songs to get a message across. He is very curious and loves to talk and learn.
- What You Should Expect Pre-Teens to Do
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Would you like your 9-11 year old child to help more at home? Are you curious if you are expecting too much or too little? Do you share the responsibility of the household chores with them? If you do everything for your child, you will not have time to do fun things with them! Plus, you will be denying them the opportunity to grow in responsibility and problem solving life skills.
- Getting Kids to Help at Home - Pre-School and Kindergarten
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Increasing evidence suggests that rich stimulation early in life affects the intellectual development of children. Children need as much encouragement as possible to try new tasks. They also need to learn from doing. Only in this way can they come to know about their surroundings and how they will personally affect them. In fact, it's never too early to start working on your child's self-image and self-confidence.
- Techniques to Get Kids to Work at Home
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Techniques to Get Kids to Work at Home It is not always easy to combine fun and work, but it is possible. The goal of family relationships should be one of mutual respect and cooperation. The sooner the chores are done, the sooner you can go have fun. Or, if you use the techniques and ideas listed below, you can do both at the same time. These fun ideas have been tested by families just like yours and mine and they work! So use your teaching and problem solving skills to think of new ways to get your kids to help at home.
- Feeling Words - More Than Mad, Sad Or Glad
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Families and individuals often struggle to find words which describe what they are feeling. Many find themselves referring back to mad, sad and happy, especially if the parents were never allowed to express feelings in their childhood homes. One of the cornerstones of successful families is mutual respect. Mutual respect is formed when there is honest communication and understanding between members in a relationship. There are varying degrees of all emotions.
- I Messages Instead of You Messages Makes Better Communication
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Most parents start out each conversation with their children with "You...." For instance, how many times today have exchanges been; "you need to stop that behavior" "You never pick up your toys" "You need to do your homework, chores, turn off the TV, smile more, stop eating so much, etc. etc. It is no wonder that the children stop listening to us. Every time we open our mouth it is to accuse them of something or give instructions or criticism.
- Guidelines For a Fun, Efficient, and Effective Household Chore Time
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] When getting your children to help out around the house, it can be difficult to make that time a positive time. Kids have negative ideas about chores, and like to avoid them if possible. Yes, it's hard to get the entire family to help with cleaning and straightening up. But there are some things to remember when it comes to work around the house, or guidelines if you will. The following guidelines should increase effectiveness and cooperation when it comes to family chores.
- Just Walk Away - Teach Your Children to Brush Off Teasing
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] f you are a parent whose child is suffering from teasing, you should remember that there are options. Teach your child that there are different ways to deal with teasing, and encourage them to choose the one that will make them feel confident and good about themselves. Read the article and help your children Practice Ignoring Hurtful Remarks.
- Happy Buttons - What Are the Simple Pleasures That Bring You Joy?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What makes you happy? What are the simple pleasures that bring you great joy? Review the following list slowly, taking time to savor each one and remember the emotions it evokes. What about your children? Do you know what their happy buttons are? Have you asked them lately?
- I Want to Be the Kind of Friend I Would Like to Have
[Relationships:Friendship] Is friendship important? Do you feel or think that others don't want to be your friend? Do you label yourself as "shy" or a "loner"? If you could look in a catalog to find the kind of friend you would like, what would you look for? How many of those characteristics do you share with others?
- Who Owns the Problem - Parent Or Child?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Who owns the problem; Parent or Child? It is tempting for parents to assume ownership and responsibility for everything that goes on in the life of their child. However, when the parent jumps in too soon to solve the problem or give the answer, the child never learns to trust his own judgment and become a critical thinker. Look at the list of situations and see if you can figure out, who owns the problem?
- Writing Articles For Readers - Tell Them What They Want to Know
[Writing-and-Speaking:Writing-Articles] Are you a writer? Would you like to increase the effectiveness of your articles? Do you want people to like, trust and buy from you? Do you know who your audience is and what they need your help with? Are you feeling unsure about your audience or your ability to reach them? In order to build self confidence in your writing,you need to know the reader. The more you know about the potential reader and what they need help with, the more you can grow your business and outreach..
- Stress Triggers For Kids
[Self-Improvement:Stress-Management] How do you know what is stress and what is a temper tantrum? How do you figure out if the stomachache is from too many tacos last night or the math test scheduled today? Why would your six year old be stressed when you are the one who lost the job? Why would your eight year old suddenly hate Little League and begin wheezing as it nears time to go? Is it possible for little kids to be depressed? At times all parents are confused by what are normal growing pains and what is a genuine fear or stress in their child's life. The three standards to judge the situation are:
- Manners, Etiquette & Politeness Quiz
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] People with good manners have the ability to make others feel comfortable. How you behave in social situations will have a big reflection on how those who work or interact with you will perceive you and judge your character in other areas of your life. Manners and being polite is a life skill that is very important to teach your children before they become independent adults. You can't teach what you don't know, so learn the skills and then model the behavior to others. Many times, you may make an error in etiquette because you did not know any better.
- Do More With Children, Not For Them - Ages 6 to 8 Years Old - Primary Grades
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Would you like to give your children self confidence? How about teaching them skills to make them valuable in the world of work? What about helping them to assume personal responsibility? And the big question--How would you like to have more time to spend with them, not waiting on them hand and foot! Then read on for some great suggestions on doing less for your children and more with them.
- Smile! Relieve Stress, Achieve Happiness, and Relax Just by Smiling
[Self-Improvement:Happiness] Did you know that just by smiling, you can actually make yourself feel happy? It sounds silly, and it may not be easy the first time, but it's true, it really works. Sometimes a positive attitude in negative situations can turn things around, and improve the situation. Just like a positive attitude, a simple smile can calm you when you're stressed, or improve your mood when feeling down.
- Raising a Resilient, Bounce Back Kid
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] How does your child handle disappointment? What happens if they don't win the game, election or friend? Do they want to quit the team when they're not picked to play?
- Next Time and Up Until Now - Mistake Or Learning Experience?
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] If you've made a mistake recently and you feel like beating yourself up about it, take a moment to think. Will this mistake affect your happiness for the rest of your life? Probably not. Say to yourself, "next time!" and think about how you'll handle a similar situation if it ever happens again. You've learned from your mistake now, instead of letting it get you down into a negative mindset.
- Messages Through Body Language - Communication is More Than Just Words
[Relationships:Communication] When communicating with others, words are important. They relay the literal meaning of what you're trying to communicate. But words aren't everything. Body language is the key to understanding the true meaning behind what somebody is saying.
- Give the Gift of Courage and Encouragement
[Self-Improvement:Inspirational] Encouraging words are extremely powerful. When you encourage somebody, you are giving them a gift of courage. It compels them to move forward, to achieve more in life than just the bare minimum. Knowing that somebody wants you to succeed, and tells you so, can give you the courage and the confidence to truly do so.
- Finding Gold in the Rocks - Reframe Negative Self-Imposed Traits Into Positive Traits
[Self-Improvement:Self-Esteem] Too often, people criticize themselves and call themselves names. Sometimes we even take on the names other people have given us throughout our lives, even if we don't deserve them. We sometimes base our life on those negative traits, whether they're true or not. This is unhealthy, and an overall negative way to live your life.
- Do Your Beliefs Control Your Actions?
[Self-Improvement:Inspirational] Everybody has beliefs. No matter who you are or where you're from, you hold beliefs about life. They may not be religious or spiritual beliefs, but rather beliefs about life and what it holds. Beliefs about how you should live. The problem is, it's easy to let your beliefs control you, instead of you controlling your beliefs.
- Be a Good Finder, Not a Fault Finder - Don't Nit Pick Over Everything
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] As a parent, or anybody in a relationship with another person, it's important to remember not to nitpick. It seems easy for some people to find faults, and to criticize. They examine others for any possible flaw, and point it out as though this is necessary for everyone. In fact, it's not!
- Understanding Medical Jargon
[Health-and-Fitness] My neighbor was furious when she came out of the doctor's office. All through lunch she complained about waiting for 2 hours to get in, being seen by a doctor who did not know her, and spending 4 minutes total with him. Most of the time involved cursory questions to determine if she was the right patient.
- Complain, Criticize Or Change - Don't Be Part of the Problem, Be the Solution
[Relationships:Enhancement] "So you watch yourself about complaining, Sister. What you're supposed to do when you don't like a thing is to change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it. Don't complain." -Maya Angelou.
- Time to Daydream and Use Imagination
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Everyone needs silence and privacy at times. Many parents have their children in so many structured programs to "enrich" their lives that there is no times to just think and be. We should never become full time recreation directors for our children.
- Step-Parent Success - 7 Easy Steps
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Being a step parent does not mean being stepped on or walked over like a doormat. It also does not have to be hard, frustrating and disruptive to daily life. Parenting is a challenge, even when you have known the children from birth.
- Overcome Negative Self Talk With Encouragement
[Self-Improvement:Positive-Attitude] How do you typically define yourself? Do you tell yourself as well as others that you are disorganized, financially challenged or simply not good enough?
- Organize - Get Kids Helping at Home
[Home-and-Family] Children, from 6 to 8 years of age, are at a major transition point. They are now in school full-time and feeling really grown up. They have developed the strength and physical dexterity to handle more tedious and detailed tasks. At the same time, they still have relatively short attention spans and are likely to get bored very easily.
- Adversity, Hard Times and Trouble - Why Not You?
[Home-and-Family] Some years ago, our family was going through a tough time. We had suffered lots of financial, medical and emotional stress. It became so overwhelming that we approached an older man from our church for counsel.
- Deflect Criticism - Enhance Relationships
[Relationships:Enhancement] Here are some methods I have found to be effective in deflecting criticism, while enhancing relationships: Acknowledge the feedback. "Thank you for sharing your opinion. I will give it some thought." If there is something that would improve performance to your standards, then consider it. If not, after evaluation, simply discard the information.
- Criticism, Control and Cutting Remarks
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] "You have such a pretty face; it's too bad you are overweight." "How could you be so dumb?" "You did that wrong again." "What is the matter with you? Aren't you listening?" "You are just like your dad and he was a loser too."
- Compliment Your Child - Positive Reinforcement
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Do you know how to compliment your child? Strangely enough, many parents don't. If you never heard anything except criticism and negative comments growing up, you need to learn the words and actions in order to build the self esteem and character of your child.
- Body Language Clues For Communication
[Home-and-Family] Shrugs, sighs, eye rolling, sneers, slumped shoulders, ignoring, mumbling are all gestures of non verbal communication. But then, so are smiles, winks, hugs, spontaneous eye contact and a relaxed stance. The problem with trying to read people, and especially your children, is that body language can have multiple meanings, depending on the culture, past experiences and willingness to share emotions and feelings.
- Amazing Imagination - Daydream and Create
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Are your children lost in cyber space? Do they prefer the company of video games and television to the family? Can they day dream and use their imagination to create wonderful games or activities on their own? Do they need someone or something to tell them how to have fun? If so, they need to develop their amazing imagination and think of new ways to solve problems, create possibilities and think their own thoughts. All children need some unstructured time without parental or electronic interference.
- Home Schooling vs Public Schooling
[Home-and-Family] Our family has a unique opportunity to see this in action as one grandson Taylor (14) and his sister Amanda (13) have been either home schooled or enrolled in charter schools for most of their education. Their cousins Tyler (15) and Lexi (12) have always attended public schools. They live 300 miles away from each other and so I only get to observe them together two or three times a year.
- Organizational and Teaching Tools for a Well Run Household
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] When everyone is in the habit of taking his own plate to the sink after meals, scraping residue into the garbage, rinsing and placing it in the dishwasher, it doesn't have to be on the job chart. Occasionally, when kids are in a real hurry, they will need to be reminded. But once established, this type of action becomes natural instead of a deliberated decision. The following are specific tools you might use so everyone knows their responsibilities so jobs get done properly.
- 4 Step Training System - How to Teach Your Kids New Skills
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Chores are an important part of daily life. Those mundane daily jobs that seem effortless for adults to tackle can seem like insurmountable tasks for some children. Membership in a family takes coordinated effort for a household to run smoothly. Each person has a role to play and jobs to perform.
- What Kids Can Do - Realistic Chores For Six, Seven and Eight Year Old Children
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] A six-year-old has acquired good control over his body and has a great deal of energy to expend learning new skills and perfecting those he already has. His attention span is increasing, but he gets restless if an activity lasts longer than fifteen or twenty minutes. At seven, a child is still close to his parents and appreciates attention, love and sympathy. He is also beginning to relate more to things outside the home. He has individual tastes and wants to be allowed to make some of his own decisions. He is lively, eager and tremendously interested in life around him. He explores many activities and likes to repeat those that he likes. At seven, a child is still close to his parents and appreciates attention, love and sympathy. He is also beginning to relate more to things outside the home. He has individual tastes and wants to be allowed to make some of his own decisions. He is lively, eager and tremendously interested in life around him. He explores many activities and likes to repeat those that he likes.
- Are You Stuffed like a Turkey?
[Self-Improvement:Spirituality] In America, Thanksgiving traditionally means family, friends and especially food. We cook and eat as if there was a scarcity of turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing and creamy vegetables. We dive into pumpkin pie as if there was a national law that says it can only be served and eaten one day a year.
- Money: A Matter of Attitude, Broke or Poor
[Self-Improvement:Positive-Attitude] Being broke is a condition that many people are faced with this time of year. The Holidays are jam packed with food, family, friends, and frustrations. We desire to be, have, and buy all that will make our loved ones and ourselves happy, but we are usually long on want lists and short on cash. It is easy to fall prey to the seduction of buying on unlimited credit and having to face the unrelenting bills long after the momentary joy is gone.
- Why Set Boundaries?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] A boundary or limit lets me know how far I can go with comfort in a relationship, either personal or professional. It lets me know where my psychological and physical space ends and yours begins. This knowledge of how far we can go with comfort is necessary for love, intimacy and trust.
- Pre-School and Kindergarten Kids Help at Home
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Increasing evidence suggests that rich stimulation early in life affects the intellectual development of children. Children need as much encouragement as possible to try new tasks. They also need to learn from doing. Only in this way can they come to know about their surroundings and how they will be personally affected by them.
- Absent Parents and Left Behind Kids
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Explaining the absent parent is never easy, but it is necessary. For children, their primary fear is of abandonment and loss of parental love. There may be a number of reasons that the family is no longer intact, if it ever was, but the child is looking for reassurance that it is not their fault and that they will be cared for.
- Inward and Outward Responsibility
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Childhood is about growing into a respectful, contributing member of society. It is an opportunity to practice social and life skills that will be necessary out in the real world. We need to prepare them to be as independent as possible, because at some time there will not be a loving Mom to solve problems and they will have to assume personal responsibility..
- Establish Traditions
[Home-and-Family] Traditions and rituals within the family make everyone feel more united
and a part of the group. Many participants in parenting classes say, "Oh, we don’t really have any traditions." But when we start brainstorming, it is amazing how many simple acts and events have been repeated in the same way, and they are now anticipated by family members.
- Mindful Parenting
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] So often we do unconscious parenting, just getting through the day without really thinking or planning for what we want to teach our children. It is not that we don't love our family; it is just that the love sometimes gets lost in translation through poor communications or unskillful methods.
- What is Child Exploitation?
[Relationships:Sexuality] The very words exploit means to use unfairly for one’s own advantage. Sexual abuse can take the form of child exploitation for example, by photographing the child in a compromising situation, with the intent to either use the photos for their own sexual stimulation or to sell the photos as pornography. It can also mean kidnapping and selling children into prostitution, or even just forcing someone younger and weaker to do your will.
- Expressing Love with Non-verbal Cues
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] It is not enough for parents, step parents and extended family to feel a deep glow of love for the children in your circle of influence. You must convey that feeling into a message that is heard, felt and integrated by the child. Children need to be told both verbally and non-verbally how much they are valued for just being them.
- Teaching Children About Natural Consequences
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] There is no better place for your child to learn values, standards, and social skills than in the home. There is no better teaching method than letting natural consequences take place. If you as an adult don't pay the phone bill, they cut off your service. If your child doesn't turn in his report, he receives a low grade
- Smart People Set Smart Goals
[Self-Improvement:Motivation] Years ago I remember reading a book or article by Zig Ziglar, on the eight universal needs of all mankind. Incorporating that information into my own life’s journey, has been a guiding principal in my writing, teaching and interactions with others. He said and I agree, that everyone, no matter their position, income level, and gender, place of employment or birth desires these things to come to pass in their lives:
- Setting Boundaries in Relationships
[Relationships] Setting personal boundaries are like identifying the gates in our invisible fence lines which protects the precious heart and soul inside our bodies. Many people look at boundaries as walls, but rather when we establish healthy boundaries it provides a way to distinguish what we choose to let in and let out. They form flexible gates, not stationary walls It is important to learn about setting healthy boundaries so we can make decisions about what is and what isn’t permissible in all relationships.
- Personal Responsibility
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What constitutes a neat and tidy room may not seem like such a big deal, but it represents a microcosm of how the family works together and how personal responsibility is taught and learned. Even though your child picks up his shoes without being reminded and turns in his homework assignments, it won’t guarantee his success in life. It will, however, go far to help him to develop the characteristics and attributes that employers and mates look for.
- May I Have This Dance?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] How do people from dysfunctional homes know what is normal or appropriate in relationships? What happens if you want to be a loving parent but your role model was a bad example? How do you learn to be a mother if you have never been mothered?
- How to Make Friends and Build Relationships
[Self-Improvement:Happiness] "How do I teach my child social skills, when I don’t know how to make friends?"
"How do you have time to maintain a friendship when life is so busy with work and kids?"
- How to Get Teens to Listen to What You Say
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] "Idunno" becomes the answer of choice for children from ages 14 to 18. You would almost wonder if perhaps they had lost the power of speech, but somehow they can communicate when they want something.
Most teens in a recent study indicated that they want to spend more time with their families and are grateful when their parents care enough to make the effort. However, from a parent’s view point, the effort is frequently met with a cold shoulder, blank look or the ever ready shrug of the shoulder.
- Feeling Words and Expressions
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] If you came from a family where you were not allowed to express your true feelings, you may not even be aware of the range of feelings that are normal and experienced every day. In communication with your family you may find yourself overusing the old stand by’s of "Mad, Sad and Happy."
- 5 Tips to Avoid Sexual Assault
[Relationships:Sexuality] Sexual assault is not an occasional happening, on the contrary a woman is assaulted every 2 and a half minutes in the United States. When you consider that at least half of the assaults go unreported, that is a staggering number of women and girls whose lives are affected negatively by this trauma.
- Aggressive, Assertive of Passive?
[Self-Improvement] Assertiveness is a method of communication that lets others know your ideas and feelings, while respecting their feelings as well...
- Grandma's Apron - Author Unknown
[Home-and-Family] An old African tale says that when a person dies, it is as if a library has burned down. Share your personal history today, someone needs to hear it as much as you need to tell it...
- Assuming Personal Responsibility in Relationships
[Relationships] Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families says that responsibility is really the “ ability to choose our response.” We don’t have to respond to stimuli and triggers the same way we have always done.
We do have a choice. It may take some practice and a real commitment on our part to let go of old patterns and try something new, but it is worth it in peace of mind, deeper relationships and conversations that don’t
end in arguments. The kind of communication we seek depends on a number of things; mutual respect and courtesy, a willingness to listen to other points of view and good timing...
- Rules for Getting the Story Down
[Writing-and-Speaking:Writing] 1. Write it fast, fix it later.
2. Commit to writing 16 ½ minutes per day or 3 hours per week. If it is easier for you, commit to writing 3 pages a day.
3. Quality is more important than quantity...
- Reasons for Recording Your Life Story
[Writing-and-Speaking:Writing] 1. No one else will do it for you.
2. No one else knows the stories of you life quite like you do. Do you want them to tell it?
- Getting the Story Down
[Writing-and-Speaking:Writing] Questions and answers on writing life experiences for ourselves and others...
- Formats for Writing Life Narratives
[Writing-and-Speaking:Writing] Best choice when subject is very verbal or there are two or more people being
interviewed or taped at the same time. All repetitive statements, umms, ahhs and blatant incorrect grammar are edited out. Natural patterns of speech, coloquolisms and favorite sayings are left in...
- Teaching Children Responsibility
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What does it mean to teach your children responsibility? Every parent has a different answer and a different expectation of when and how their child will assume personal responsibility. One thing is for sure and that is that responsibility must be taught. It is not a natural skill, but it can be learned at any age. You do not become responsible when you are mature, but rather you become mature when you are responsible...
- Simple Tricks To Help You And Your Kids To Find Friends
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] One of the most prevalent problems of the computer age is isolation and loneliness. In order to build and maintain relationships there are a number of simple skills, which can be learned, to enhance the opportunity to find and keep friends...
- Raising Kids on a Budget
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] There are only two ways to get more money:
1) Increase your income and
2) Decrease your outgo.
- Helping Your Child Make and Keep Friends
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Although rejected children differ in many ways, there does seem to be something they have in common...
- Consistent Boundaries Makes Discipline Easier
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Homes should be run by parents, not children. So many times, however, either the children are in charge or the parents are so eager to be liked, that whatever rules and standards are talked about, few are enforced, especially on a consistent basis...
- 15 Ways to Help Kids Like Themselves
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Homes should be run by parents, not children. So many times, however, either the children are in charge or the parents are so eager to be liked, that whatever rules and standards are talked about, few are enforced, especially on a consistent basis...
- Work Before Play
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] We would all like the sweet without the sweat, but life seldom hands it out that way. It is unfair to allow children to think that they get what they want when they want it just because they want it.
- What is Incest?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What is Incest?
Incest differs from other forms of sexual abuse in that the perpetrator is assumed to stand in a protective or parental role to the victim. Incest is sexual activity, ranging from fondling to intercourse, between members who aren’t married to one another. State laws vary regarding the type of sexual activity and also on what constitutes the type of kinship that indicates incest rather than just sexual abuse.
Some definitions include teachers, neighbors, step families, baby sitters, ministers/priests and others who are in the circle of influence of a child and have established an emotional bond. That is why it is so hard to get substantiated statistics, because referring to the same thing by different names and different things by the same name often creates confusion.
- What is Child Sexual Abuse?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What is child sexual abuse? Any sexual activity that is imposed on a child by an adult or an adolescent is a sexual assault and abuse of the power of one person over another. The key word in this definition is imposed on a child. Children are trained to trust adults, as well they should. When an adult asks, manipulates or forces a child to do something that is against the child’s best interest and welfare, they are imposing an experience that will have life long repercussions: perhaps physically, but especially emotionally. Many behavior problems can be traced to being inappropriately touched or manipulated by someone who had power or authority over a child., and using that power in a sexual way.
- What Are Reasonable Expectations of a Child?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] To have reasonable expectations of our children is an important aspect of wise parenting. Reasonable expectations leave room for a child to be a child but understand they are on the road to learning to be a mature adult. Often I see parents who try to hold their children to a much higher standard than the child is able to accomplish or just the opposite, ask almost nothing from the child. Many parents who were forced to work hard as a child, either because of financial reasons or over-strict parents have vowed that their children will be allowed to just be “kids” and enjoy life. May I tell you that there is a happy medium?
- Water! Water Everywhere!
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What one word best sums up summer fun? Water. I bet your favorite memories as a child involved getting wet, running through sprinklers on a sweltering afternoon, water fights in the backyard, wading at the beach, playing on the slip & slide, and skipping rocks across the river. Your kids will relish the same experiences if they share them with you...
- Use Encouragement Instead of Criticism to Help Children Improve
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Our words are very powerful tools, especially with impressionable children. We need to pause and think before we give corrections and feedback on what our children are doing...
- Time Out for Adults
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] So, does time out work for children?
Yes, but only when it is age appropriate (one minute for each year of age) and then followed by a discussion at eye level of why the action was unacceptable. There has to be some conversation or connection to the actual event or misbehavior for it to be used as a teaching tool. It has been my experience that the consequences need to be tied in some tangible way to the mistake in order for the discipline to become long lasting. Perhaps a more effective teaching discipline would be to...
- Blended Families Can Be Successful
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Many families today are blending members from past relationships. It would be easy to give up when faced with all the conflicting methods of parenting and discipline that come to a family who has joined forces together.
- Personal Responsibility: What It Means and Whose Job is It?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] What constitutes a neat and tidy room may not seem like such a big deal, but it represents a microcosm of how the family works together and how personal responsibility is taught and learned. Even though your child picks up his shoes without being reminded and turns in his homework assignments, it won’t guarantee his success in life. It will, however, go far to help him to develop the characteristics and attributes that employers and mates look for.
- Normal and Logical Consequences
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] There is no better place for your child to learn values, standards, and social skills than in the home. There is no better teaching method than letting natural consequences take place. If you as an adult don't pay the phone bill, they cut off your service. If your child doesn't turn in his report, he receives a low grade. If there are no natural consequences, parents sometimes have to establish a logical one. Make sure that your children have a clear understanding of their actions and the consequences. We want them to comprehend that for every action there is a reaction, either pleasant or unpleasant...
- Is My Child Lazy?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Is there a difference between lazy and unmotivated? Why do some children move as if in slow motion? Is this normal or are they just trying to irritate you? You may be surprised to learn that a great many factors come into play when a child appears to be lazy; stage of growth, hormones, hunger, motivation, lack of clear directions and maybe even sleep deprivation.
- How to Create an Attitude of Cooperation
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] As teachers, parents, and caring adults, we want to create an atmosphere where mutual respect and support are inherent and people learn to self-manage. We do need to discipline and guide the actions and character development until the individuals can learn and practice self-discipline. The word discipline, as defined in Webster's dictionary, means learning or knowledge, the training that develops self-control, character, orderliness, and efficiency. The root word of discipline is disciple, which means a student or follower of another. It does not mean punishment or fear.
- How Often Does Child Sexual Abuse Get Reported?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] How often does child sexual abuse get reported? Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse victims never report the crime or get help in coming to grips with this life-changing trauma. They move into adulthood with a broken heart and low self esteem. Much misbehavior and acting out can be traced to an incident which occurred which left the child feeling confused, betrayed and angry.
In an attempt to cope with the confusing reality of what has happened to them, many children develop survival skills or behaviors that will help them to cover up what they are really feeling. Families, friends and society sometimes see and judge the problem behavior when it is actually a symptom of the internal pain which has never been addressed.
- Does Sexual Abuse Usually Occur Just Once?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Your daughter tells you that Uncle Charley has touched her bottom and she doesn’t like to sit on his lap anymore! Should you believe your child? Yes. Should you believe Uncle Charley when he promises never to do it again or even denies inappropriately touching the child? Probably not. Offenders who have been caught tell researchers that nobody does it just once.
- Playful Parenting - More than Just Fun and Games
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Early childhood educators have called play “children’s work”. Many parents believe their children should be doing something more productive than merely having fun. But, actually, play fosters physical, emotional, intellectual and social development. Encouraging your child to play is vital for his development as well as his happiness.
- Loving Your Step-Children
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Loving your step-child can be both simple and hard. It is not enough for parents, step parents and extended family to feel a deep glow of love for the children in your circle of influence. You must convey that feeling into a message that is heard, felt and integrated by the child. Children need to be told both verbally and non-verbally how much they are valued for just being them.
- Your Family is an Organization
[Home-and-Family] It is good to remember a family is an organization. In fact, it is the basic organization of society. This is just one of the reasons I am such a proponent of family meetings. You wouldn’t think of running a successful business without a plan, goal setting meetings, team building sessions and clear missions and expectations. As such, everyone in the family should have an equivalent of a job description. Each person’s job description helps him define his roles and responsibilities in the family. Just like in the workplace, the clearer the job description and the more input is solicited from the participant, the more ownership is established. If you have ever worked in a workplace where no one knew what their job was day to day and rules were arbitrary, you will recall how chaotic and frustrating it was for everyone.
- Is There a Book Hiding Inside You?
[Writing-and-Speaking:Book-Marketing] Have you always wanted to write? Are there ideas churning in your mind waiting for just the right time to get them down on paper? Do you have a unique perspective on a subject or problem facing many people? You may very well have the makings of a book hiding in your soul. Now is the time to find out simple it is to get it out and into the minds and hearts of readers eager to read what you have to say.
- Keep Your Cool
[Self-Improvement:Positive-Attitude] Controlling angry feelings is a skill that children learn from the people who care for them. There are activities which support our development of self-control. Count to twenty, backwards! We all need to find helpful ways to intervene when anger and frustration overwhelms us or our children.
- Discipline Without Damage
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] If your parenting methods include abuse of any kind; physical, sexual, emotional or verbal, please get help to stop as soon as possible. Adults are supposed to safeguard and protect the young among us. You may be repeating patterns learned in your family of origin or not know any other methods of parenting.
- Write "Your" Slice of Life: 6 Quick and Easy Steps to Writing a Personal Essay
[Writing-and-Speaking:Writing-Articles] Do you know why the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series is so popular? Aside from terrific marketing and unequaled publicity, readers love the stories and personal essays. They are short, personal and teach a lesson or moral. If you would like to be a better writer of the personal essay, opinion pieces, reports and letters to the editor just follow the suggestions listed below:
- What Can We Do to Make Kids More Likeable?
[Kids-and-Teens] Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent or teacher more than the plaintive cry “nobody likes me" or ”I don’t have any friends.” We wish there were something we could do to insure the child will be, if not the most popular, at least included in the games on the playground. Actually, there is something we can do to increase their acceptance by the group and become more approachable to others.
- The Second Half of My Life
[Health-and-Fitness:Weight-Loss] Have you ever wondered where destiny would lead you? Have you ever pondered whether the road you are taking would lead to fulfillment and happiness? Will your physical body be able to accomplish all that your spiritual and intellectual being is destined to do? I made decisions that will impact the quantity and quality for the last half of my life. You can too.
- Assume Personal Responsibility? Who, Me?
[Home-and-Family:Parenting] Psychologists teach that the only reasons people are ever motivated or moved to action is to gain a reward or avoid a penalty. As you teach the principal of personal responsibility to the children in your charge be sure to explain what they will gain or lose by the choices they make. responsibility is an ever widening circle. We do not become responsible when we mature: We mature when we become responsible.
- Stress Management Techniques
[Self-Improvement:Stress-Management] If you are looking for self-care, time-management, and new ideas for success in stress management, this is the article for you. It is filled with great techniques, ideas and hints on overcoming the stressors in your life. It also contains a listing of common stress causing activities to avoid.
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